To Wedding or Not to Wedding?

That is the question. Yesterday, after a yummy meal with good people at the Cheesecake factory, we were walking around the mall. Jokingly, Brian told the husband of the couple we were with "Well, I didn't want a wedding." I know he is comfortable with what we are planning, but I was frustrated because I don't want a wedding either. Why on earth are we going through all this trouble for something we don't want?

I called Brian from home and said, "Let's start from scratch, in a perfect world, what would you want to do instead of a wedding? Think about it, 'cause we need to talk."

In a perfect world, I wouldn't have a wedding, reception, anything. I would be entirely content returning my dress, getting married at city hall and heading to France, no muss, no fuss.

In a perfect world, Brian would have a city hall wedding and dinner with a few of our closest family and friends.

I hate his idea, he hates mine. What it came down to is the important part for me is the ceremony, and the part for him is an intimate reception. We've decided to compromise with a wedding. Although it's not ideal, we both get what's important and so far it has remained simple and small. A compromise.